The most hated man in the world…sure, I’ll pile on.
There has been quite a bit of publicity recently about a guy named Julien Blanc, the self-professed pick-up artist and superstar of the misogynistic website RSD or Real Social Dynamics. Julien makes his living giving seminars to men about how to pick up women. He claims that he’s providing some kind of public service to “socially repressed” men, too shy to approach women, and unable to overcome their awkwardness to even strike up a conversation. To hear him talk, Julien is a former wallflower, whose only mission in life is to help men find meaningful relationships with women.
Yeah, right, Julien. What you actually are is a sexist, obnoxious individual who teaches men that getting women in the sack at all cost is the number one priority. Period. Your message isn’t how to talk to women respectfully, practice chivalry, or anything close. It’s quite the opposite. I took a look at the product you sell, aptly titled, Pimp. The word pimp is defined as “one who procures sexual gratification for another.” The website for your tutorial product disgusted me. Right from the start is the proclamation: “Make girls beg to sleep with you by short-circuiting their emotional and logical mind…” It goes on and on, explaining that you wanted to figure out “…this whole walking up to girls I’d never met before and make them want to sleep with me…” You developed a “system” and now for a price ($200-500 ) you can’t wait to share your shtick with the rest of the male world. One testimonial gushes, “Julien sometimes insults girls to the point where they are genuinely offended and then he apologises and brings her back to his side…all the while taking her on an emotional roller coaster.”
Let me give you another definition, Julien. Predator: “a person who looks for people to use, control, or harm them in some way.” That’s you, Julien. You want to tell yourself that you’re engaged in some noble quest to empower poor, geeky males who can’t get a date. What you are doing is making money by teaching techniques for sexual predators. Nothing is off limits, including lying about death of a loved one, or suicidal thoughts to make you seem vulnerable. In your perverted world, there is no situation where a woman should say no to the sexual advances of a man. “Panty dropping masculinity” is what you call it. Your website even describes techniques for overcoming that “LMR-Last Minute Resistance” because, as you say, “It’s all about closing—fucking those girls…”
Julien has had quite a run, with seminars scheduled worldwide, until he got a little too, well…cocky. He started crossing even more horrible lines, making jokes about choking women. I’ll digress momentarily and allow my time as a sex crimes/domestic violence detective and instructor to correct this common error. Choking is what you do on a chicken bone. Manual pressure on a person’s throat is strangulation. We need to quit using the more benign “choked” and call it what it is: Strangulation, folks. Julien Blanc suggests strangulation as foreplay. He also co-opted a domestic violence prevention chart designed to help women identify abusive behaviors into a pickup checklist with the twitter hashtag #howtomake herstay.
Women’s groups understandably became enraged. His seminar’s true intent got the attention of the British, Brazilian and Australian governments, and the UK thankfully stopped him by revoking his visa. Now Julien is attempting repentance, insisting that he never meant to harm or offend anyone. Seriously, dude? You are shocked that you are finally getting the negative attention you and those like you deserve. During a recent interview with CNN you try unsuccessfully to peddle your “poor misunderstood me” routine. Thankfully, host, Chris Cuomo, doesn’t let you dodge responsibility for your despicable behavior. You claim to take “100% responsibility” but a moment later claim you were taken out of context. You can watch the pathetic CNN interview here.
You can’t have it both ways, Julien. You are teaching men to pressure women into sex at all cost. You are a predator making money on your despicable behavior. The world needs to see you as you are. More than that we need to recognize that a guy like Julien would get nowhere if we would finally empower our daughters to value themselves as individuals, rather than sexual objects.
If you think Julien and his cohorts are as disgusting as I do, here are a couple of ways to make your voice heard. On Twitter: #TakeDownJulienBlanc and Change.org has a petition. Please add your voice to the outrage.
Thanks for reading~LM