Choose to be positive

If there’s one thing I can truly say that I learned in 2013 is that it’s all about attitude. Why did it take me so long to figure this out? I have no idea. All my life I’ve heard the advice about how positive thinking can change everything. But I don’t think I ever really listened to the message—or at least I didn’t honestly put the message into action. I needed this year to teach me a few things, and the most important one was to change my outlook. One day a random inspirational post sat in my inbox. I’d seen the message probably a hundred times in various forms over the years:
Smile for no good reason

Every problem has a gift for you in its hands

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Peace of mind is a choice you make

We become what we think about

What each of these messages has in common is the underlying truth that we control our own interactions with the world. That choice we make is what determines whether we have a positive or negative experience. No, we can’t control others and sometimes bad stuff will happen—it’s how we react that always matters. The message that day was this: Peace of mind is a choice you can make. We become what we think about. That same day my best friend’s brother passed away. When I called to offer condolences, my friend said something that hit home:  “We are blessed.” She was extremely sad for the loss of her brother, but still focused on the good in her life. She made the choice.

We become what we think about. It had happened in my own life before. I decided I wanted to become a writer, and focused all of my energy on that goal. It worked then and I realized it could work now. I began to focus on positive thoughts. If you follow me on Facebook, you’ve seen my posts from time to time center on this theme. What I began to realize is how much the simple practice of positive thought and compassion really would alter my viewpoint. When I feel myself slipping into the old habits, I refocus to deliberately take positive action, even if it’s as small as smiling at a stranger. When I disagree with something, I try to resolve the conflict on a positive note. Most of all, I remind myself that I choose how to react. I’m still a work in progress, but that simple shift in thinking is making a huge difference in my life.

So, friends, as we enter the promise of a New Year, let me leave you with the reminder that we become what we think about. Here’s my challenge for us all in 2014:  Choose to be positive. Choose compassion. Choose to be more awesome than last year.




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  1. nagolmai

     /  January 1, 2014

    Inspiring note for New Years. Happy New Year

  2. I LIKE you. You’re a good person and I’m glad to have met you in Palm Springs. I hope our paths cross many times over. Very very best to you and Sandy in the New Year, and every year.

    • Aww, thanks, Baxter. I like you too! It was a pleasure meeting you in person. I’m sure our paths are destined to cross, because like attracts like. :) Wishing you an outstanding 2014 and beyond.

  3. Thank you for this excellent reminder. We are indeed what we think about. The great news about that is we have full control of the thoughts and attitudes we allow to dominate our minds :)


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